Lifestyles Ideas Management - Love your enemy

Who are my enemies?
People who are different from yourself? Enemies are beings that are a little too difficult to understand and they go around making their ugly presence felt by either talking aloud to intentionally putting someone down or cutting people into midget sizes. Enemies are people who go around being unkind and to the point of being cruel. They are the oppressor, the wicked and the vicious uses harmful means to get what they want and elbow everyone down up the ladder. In the corporate working world, those are the ones who get to the top and manipulate others to stay at the top but deep down they are the lonely soul.

In the course of my work I had met some of the worst very unpleasant creatures but one consolation I have always been positive about the world is beautiful and there are many nice people around, thanks to those ugly people around that makes comparison so easy between the good and the bad.
I always think that God uses difficult people to bring about a life lesson and experiences to change us into a beautiful person inside and then outside. It is really very scaring to befriend a person who is so “very nice” in the upfront but behind others back speak ill of others. The tongue is like a forest fires, it burn the whole forest by lashing out unkind words, gossip, malicious lies to harm the whole group and bring about division among good friends. Such personality is best to leave them alone and keep a distance from them or flee away from them. They are destroyers, robbers of good feelings and jealously is their name. Sometimes, you wonder whether you should give them the benefit of doubt to believe them once.
I always make it a point to be with the cheerful personality, their cheerfulness brings about sunshine and blue sea, to be with them bring laughter, smiles on your face.
To be the backlash that speak nothing good about others, sometime I wish that I am deaf and hard of hearing. To hear the bad stuff and nothing good left a sour taste in my mouth. In reality the backlash are the most inferior people or people who suffered with superiority complex, they could not love others and therefore these are the people who cannot love themselves. In order to love others, we have to love ourselves.

Of recent I realized that I am in the company of such personalities, I chose to stay away and draw an invisible line to separate between works and personal, this is to steer away from unnecessary human related problems. Life is full of problems and it is through these struggles with others that you begin to know and understand yourself. I am a better person now having struggled with difficult people most of the times; yet enable me to be a better person. This is all possible by what I believed; God uses difficult people and circumstances to mould me to a better person. Without these difficulties, I will not let off my bad habits and shortcomings. The misunderstandings with friends and colleagues make me think and learn to put myself in other’s shoes. My life’s journey have been enriched by my enemies and thanks to them, today I am a changed person.

Yesterday 27 March, my enemy remarked some words that triggered my adrenalin glands off. I got so mad and angry that I felt like going over to her workstation and gave her a tight slap on her face for the many months of bottle-up frustrations (witnessing her shouting at others, putting others down and acting as if she was the boss of the company) The pent-up feelings has been there all the while and this time it just bowled over. In my mind I thought ugly thoughts of her, she is the pain in the neck. I reminded myself the whole day that I will zip my mouth and not talk with her, not a single word from now on.
This incident makes me think that I can lost control of my bad temper if I am not careful and need to exercise self-control over such situation.
Then when I think of what Jesus teaches, to love your enemy as myself, I told myself to forgive others for the wrong that they have done and also for the wrongs that I have done to others. It evens up. Nobody’s perfect.