Lifestyles Ideas Management - Painful Break-ups

Break-ups where both sides know that they should stop seeing each other but don’t really want to. Where one part of you wants to let go by the other wants to cling on where the feelings keep clouding the picture; where you promise not to talk about hi or not to call anymore but still can’t fight the urge to send a sms message because you still care.
That happened to one of my close friend and she still cannot let go of him during the initial break-ups, actually they have not started courting each other. They just went out a few times alone for lunch and dinner. He went to her house each time on a pretext of wanting to borrow something which is too heavy to carry. Then he left something at her house so that he can make another trip to her house. I wondered why he has to always come up with alibi just to get close to her and I cannot understand why he did that in the first place by sending wrong body language to her when he is not ready to commit in a close relationship. Aha! I know he wanted “to be friends” or “companionship” than being tied down in an accountable relationship. She was ready to settle down.
Break-ups bring out the worst in people. I have a girlfriend who walk up to her hateful ex and fling one cup of chilled water which happened to be on the table onto his face and hair. And she walked away with few stares from other tables. I knew about her relationship as she shared with me and I had a feeling that she was the one doing all the chasing and that poor boy was too frightened to reject her advances. Since that day, he must have gone to a Chinese physician for some medicine to calm his nerves. What will she do next! Such spiteful behavior is stupid and childish and always leaves you feeling small and mean. Sometimes, it is strange that someone you love and when love dies, the episode of your life together and every details of that person are detestable. All along the happy memories now the thought of him arouse revenge. Once the other party threw the towel in, that party had better be prepared to receive thousand text messages that alternated between pleas and curses, 20 phone calls a day and suicide threats. I witnessed one case where the man went up to her ex-girlfriend office and stabbed her hand with a small Swiss knife right through the centre of the hand. There were cases where the ex-boyfriend track her down and stabbed her back while she was having lunch with her colleagues.

There are so many reasons why relationship ends:
You were not really that into each other in the first place and the reality sinks in after you have exhausted the early bouts of physical desires.
You love each other but the personality clashes
One party betrays the other party or both parties and forgiveness is not possible
One party or both parties do not love each other, love just dies instantly
You love each other but cannot have life together for whatever reasons there may be

How can you tell when the relationship is on the verge of break-ups?
You’re no longer No. 1 in her life where you are the first person she called when she got a promotion or at work or scold by her boss. She lost the enthusiasm to share the details of her life. She does not desire your company any longer. Phone calls getting shorter and she is busy that she do not want to take your call, you are the one that calls her every time. When she meets you, she is distracted by the beep of her phone and keeps sneaking beeps at her mobile phone to check her sms messages.
She is impatient and get angry, argue over small things. She starts muttering things like “you deserve someone better” or dropped hint that “we need to talk”.
One of the most childish break-ups a couple did was, the boyfriend asked her to return all the clothes he bought with his credit card so that he can gave all the second hand clothes to his new girlfriend. How about that! Really petty and stingy man! I pity the new beau!